Hi! You’re at Living A Boss Life with Jenn Summers and today I want to tell you all about accountability partners and my absolute passion for them. Most people don’t realize that there are many types and forms of accountability, today I will share them with you.
What is accountability?
In case accountability is something that is new to you here is a quick definition.
Accountability – an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility for one’s actions.
Geesh no wonder getting accountable has such a bad street cred even the dictionary makes it sound like the end-all to be-all of adulthood!
Well, I’m here to tell you that accountability is absolutely freaking Ah-mazing! There are so many reasons why being accountable is one of my favourite ways to keep myself motivated.
Why would you need accountability or an accountability partner?
Everyone procrastinates about something in their life. They may seem like they have it all together but I guarantee you at some point in time they too will face procrastination. Learning the keys to work on that is vital. Accountability can help rid you of procrastination.
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Woah, back up what is procrastination?
Procrastination actually comes from Latin meaning “forward” and “tomorrow” which in turn help to give it the following definition.
Procrastination– delaying the process of completing actions until a period of time in the future.
Let’s look a little closer at procrastination for a quick minute here.
Do you ever hear that little voice in the back of your head saying –
“hey, you can do this later, let’s go (insert random activity such as tv, coffee with friends, shopping). You still have lots of time to finish (insert important activity you need to get done, work report, helping the kids with homework cooking supper.)” and before you know it you have run out of time and the pressure is on.
For some people, the pressure of a time crunch is a thrill and they do really well but for most, procrastination is hard on your mind and your body.
In fact, some people where this like it is a badge of honour. How many times have you heard someone say “I thrive in utter chaos”, “I got it done in the nick of time”, “It was a close call”?
I thrive in utter chaos!
I’ll tell you a secret, I used to be one of those people! I believed that utter chaos was my strong suit and that I did better when pushed to my limits. I was wrong and I learnt it the hard way.
How my lack of accountability, for the right reasons, almost cost me everything.
My health took a beating and I was faced with an extremely scary situation. My children could have lost their mother and for what? Because I put myself under so much needless duress to prove what to whom?!?
The stress from not getting things done and worrying about them all the time is very hard on your health. In fact, stress is one of the top causes of many health complications.
Pushing yourself to do more and more when not completing smaller tasks first and within a moderate amount of time is also another creator of stress. You do not need to do it all, you are enough!
In 2015, my body took a simple virus and turned it into liver failure. My body painfully filled with 20lbs of fluids in a matter of a few days. I looked more pregnant than I had when I was pregnant with my twins. I was in the hospital for weeks and was told to expect the worst.
It was one of the most terrifying times of my life.
All I could think about was my girls growing up without their mom.
Do you think I learnt my lesson? Nope, nada, zilch, I sure the heck did not. I was in complete denial that stress and working too hard could be an issue.
6 months later my body took yet another viral bug and created meningitis. Freaking meningitis peeps! Which, in turn, meant I was quarantined and I missed the highlights of Christmas that year with my 3 girls. All because I was “super mom” running a business, working non-stop, never saying “no” and taking no time for myself or to rest.
Get accountable, for the right reasons, with Yourself!
I woke the fuck up!
I started changing my world around me. I started to realize people who I had in my life were not good for me and they sure the hell were not my accountability partners.
I changed a lot in my lifestyle. I shifted my mindset to find things that brought me passion and reduced my stress.
I still work extremely hard and some very long hours but I do it with passion and joy and I take the time for the ones I love. I wear many hats and I try to do it with grace.
According to WebMD here are the top 10 causes of health complications related to stress. Some of these took even myself by surprise!
- heart disease
- depression and anxiety
- gastrointestinal problems
- Alzheimers disease
- accelerated ageing
- premature death
There are ways accountability can help reduce that stress lets take a look.
Yes, procrastination leads to stress, not setting goals appropriately also leads to stress. Stress then leads to many concerns so let’s bite it in the butt with an easy proactive step anyone can implement in their lives right now!
What are Accountability Partners?
An accountability partner is someone who can help you to stay on task and ensure you don’t put yourself in the situation where you are scrambling at the finishing line.
Your responsibility as an accountability partner is to reciprocate the responsibility and help to ensure they stay on task as well. This a relationship that requires both parties to put in equal amounts of energy so that both can reap the awards.
You can have more than one type of accountability partner in your day to day life.
Habitual Accountability Partner
A habitual accountability partner is someone in your life who you confide in about your dreams and your goals. They may or may not know that you are using them to gain accountability.
The responsibility of reciprocating accountability for one another may not ever be established. This form of accountability is usually the least successful.
Sometimes people commit to habitual accountability without realizing or as the first step to taking accountability to the next level.
Often these habitual accountability partners fall under the close relationship accountability partners as well.
Close Relationship Accountability Partners
Maybe you have a dear friend or a spouse that you share your ambitions and your goals with. Perhaps they help hold you accountable by motivating you or perhaps you find accountability in yourself just by telling someone.
It is very common for us to share our desires with those closest to us, however, sometimes the sharing of our passions may also increase our fear of failure.
Due to fear of failure, we may not want to share our goals with loved ones because we also fear their judgement if we do not succeed. After all, they are in our lives day in and day out. They know the most about us and they may even limit our beliefs in ourselves.
Failure is only a stepping stone to bigger greater things!
Ensure your close relationship accountability partners are made from people you trust who would support you and not judge you but rather help you find methods to keep pushing forward.
Healthy relationships are a vital part of life. Building your self-confidence not only helps you but it increases the chance of a healthy relationship and your ability to distinguish toxic relationships. In confidence comes clarity in all walks of life.
Social Media Accountability Partners
Social media accountability partners are those friends that we may have on Facebook or Instagram where we post a random goal we have for ourselves or make an announcement “Join me live at 3 pm!” to ensure we follow through.
These people most likely don’t even realize you are getting accountable by them being your partner. They may not realize their words of excitement are the motivation faction you needed and sought by posting on social media.
Not sure how this works? Go ahead and try it. Pick one thing on your list of things to do that you have been putting off for a long time. Can you break it down ad pick three tasks you can do to start? Post one of them on social media and give it a time limit. Use before and after pictures if you will. Check out my social media accountability post:
Sometimes it is hard to get real with people but I have been sharing my projects for a while now and am quite comfortable with sharing even the embarrassing stuff.
And of course, don’t forget to share your successes! Those are important to help build confidence and pride. Celebrating your accomplishments is vital to becoming an amazing goal achiever!
Goal-Orientated Accountability Groups
A short time ago I created Goal-Getters Accountability with Jenn Summers, which just recently became The Living A Boss Life Tribe, and although the group is small, crushing goals make it a huge success! As a strategic goals coach, I wanted a place where everyone could benefit from a form of accountability.
This amazing group is filled with ambitious, motivated people, just like you, out there trying to make their lives better one small step at a time.
The Goal-Getters are learning just how important accountability is to their success.
The group has a monthly challenge and weekly accountability threads, as well as, daily threads to keep us motivated and moving forward.
I do a live stream every Saturday to share an insight/tip/strategy to help members towards achieving their goals as I do so right alongside them.
We work through our goals workbook to get the most out of setting goals.
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Niche-specific Accountability Partners
Sometimes the people closest to us do not understand our goals and ambitions and therefore we need to expand our circle to others who may be further away from us. I like to call these niche-specific accountability partners.
These are your people! A part of your tribe.
The people who are going through what you are going through with you and experiencing the same obstacles as you.
Niche-specific accountability partners understand the difficulties and obstacles that are in your way because they too have also experienced them. They may have overcome the obstacle already and have techniques to help you get through it too. Or perhaps you both tackle it together and come out on top.
Regardless having someone who gets what you are through is one of the best ways to gain accountability.
Surrounding yourself with your people is vital to not feeling overwhelmed when conquering the hurdles that lead to successfully achieving your goals.
Our goal-getters accountability group also provides a way to find our niche-specific accountability partners.
Sometimes we may have more than one in a given period of time and a group dedicated to accountability is the perfect solution to finding your match.
You can even find niche-specific accountability partners for what you are working on at that given moment!
We also have an amazing survey that helps you to find your niche-specific accountability partner.
Niche-Specific Accountability Coaches
Niche-specific accountability coaches, if you will, are people who focus their attention on helping people through a specific area of one’s life. Think fitness trainer, counsellor, life coach, marketing coach, goal strategist coach etc.
These are people who set forth to help their tribe achieve the goals that they have achieved by teaching them the techniques and processes they took in order to succeed.
These coaches teach their passion, their gift, their strength to others in order to help them succeed. When they help someone succeed they too feel like they have accomplished great success.
There are many niche-specific accountability coaches out there. Some provide group setting, some provide course and some provide one on one coaching. Some of them do it all!
Depending on the area of your life that you are focusing on, there are many types of coaches out there. How badly you wish to accomplish success in this area will determine if you kick it up a notch and seek assistance from a niche-specific accountability coach.
Let’s take a look at a few examples of niche-specific accountability coaches:
Lucrezia Lapchino from Blogging for New Bloggers School. Lucrezia is a lawyer who saw there was a need for making legal pages accessible for everyone no matter their budget. She guides her clients through the process by creating courses that are simple and affordable and above all solve the pain point of worrying about being legally protected. I would have been completely lost if it were not for her help.
Amy Porterfield is an Online Marketing Expert that teaches entrepreneurs how to take their business to the next level, the online level. he gives support in so many ways from a podcast to a Facebook group to her digital marketing courses.
Sasha Lassey teaches women how to build a blog from the ground up to earning profits. When I started my first website I would have been so lost without her knowledge and skills. She built her blog to an amazing powerhouse and now teaches women how to do the same!
Me! I took my skills and turned them into my passion and my purpose. I find true joy in helping others accomplish their goals. As a woman and a mother, I have learnt that I could rebuild myself and take my experiences and find the silver lining to turn them into my greatest strengths and get shit done! Sharing my knowledge with others is what makes me keep on moving. Coaching others to succeed and find their confidence and clarity is my greatest motivation.
What all of these incredible niche-specific accountability coaches have in common is their passion to help others succeed. From that the most amazing connection can be made and true success can be found.
Are you ready for your accountability partner?
Now that you know accountability partners come in many forms from group to social to one-on-one, how are you using accountability in your life? Are you ready to kick it up a notch and get niche-specific? Are you ready to start aiming high for your goals? Are you ready to get motivated and start making progress?
If you answered yes be sure to stick around because I have so much more I want to share with you to ensure you are Living a Boss Life! Sign up and get all my greatest tips directly to your inbox!
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