Overcoming negative thinking has been one of my biggest struggles and that is why I am so passionate about it. Learning to retrain your brain is possible and here is why we need to give this some extra thought.
It is extremely easy to fall into negativity and when you grow up in a home that focuses on negative thinking over positive thinking you become engrained with it slowly over time.
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When something good would happen in life there was always some negative thing we had to be on the lookout for, after all, all good things come to an end. If something bad happened more bad was on its way, after all, bad things come in threes. The list goes on and on.
It is so easy to fall back into that array of negative gut-wrenching, terrible mind behaviour.
But I try my damndest not to!
Sometimes I catch myself going off about something that probably would not be that bad but my little Bob (my fixed mindset critic dude) is in there wreaking havoc on my positive mindset.
I have trained my brain that I now am on the lookout for this extreme negativity and when I hear it playing in my mind or rolling off my tongue I shout “shut the f*ck up!” in my mind.
Just like negativity occurs almost naturally in your mind and automatically, you can retrain your brain to cultivate positively naturally and automatically!
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Use these 7 Epic Tips To Retrain Your Brain to help you nurture a positive mindset.
Retrain your Brain With Healthy Venting
Have you ever found yourself complaining about the weather, about your co-workers, about social media, or your family and friends?
If you said no you are most likely lying to yourself!
We all complain. Its been a natural part of our lives instilled on us through our environments, through the people we meet and throught the news and social media.
I’m sure you have heard of using I statements in active communication, well it is just as important to use it in our venting too! This technique is called healthy venting and it helps us to talk about how a situation makes us feel and to consider whether or not we have control over it.
If we do not have control over the situation we must find a way to separate our selves from it.
Although complaining is a natural response many of us have to a situation we msust remmber that it has negative energy that drains us and takes our focus away from the positive things happening right now.
Learn more about how to healthy vent here.
Retrain Your Brain With Gratitude
Now that we understand some things are out of our control and that we need to focus on. the happy things in. our lives it is time to talk about using gratitude to retrain your brain.
This essential step should be done on a daily basis in order to form the new positive helathy habit.
Practice gratitude everyday by counting your blessings, whether they be big or small there is always something good in your life and that needs to take precedence in your mind.
Gratitude journals are a great way to start or end your day. Simply write down a few things that you are grateful for each day.
Try using gratitude affirmations like the ones from our 37 gratitude affirmation blog post!
Detox Your Relationships
There comes a time i our life when we need to evaluate the relationships we have come to surround ourselves with. This is not easy, this has become a part of our everyday existence and some of the toxic relationships have been our lives since the day we were born.
Let go of negative people who criticize or abuse you whether it be mentally, physically or otherwise.
Remember that sometimes the pain of letting them go is worse than the pain of putting up with their negative effects on us. Change is often hard because of this in the beginning. However, sometimes it is essential in order for us to find new bliss.
I share my story of letting go in my identifying toxic people post which I think is a great resource if you are looking to detox your relationships.
You can learn even more about how to retrain your brain and your relationships in our relationships & confidence post.
Retrain Your Brain By Helping Others
When we help others it gives a natural feel good sensation and sends our emotions into overdrive. We feel empowered by helping empower others. You can do this in many ways whether it be volunteering or by practicing acts of kindness.
Acts of kindness are one of my top favourite things and this year I made them a part of birthday see my acts of kindness post for more great info and inspiration.
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I also really love the pay it forward movement. If someone does something kind for you pay it forward to someone else. This ripple effect can help others find positivity too.
Meditate Your Brain To Positivity
Long ago I thought of mediation as something way out of my league, part of limiting beliefs told me that meditation was not for me. I ahd tried a few in the past and had not bee able to connect within myself.
Little did I know then it was because I needed to eliminate my fixed mindset. Once I discovered I could do anything if I just changed my mind mediation started to become easier. It wasn’t voodoo or magic that only the great monks could enjoy it was something I too could grasp.
If you find yourself where I used to be try starting small, even a few minutes practicing relaxation techniques can change your outlook on mediation. This is a great way to retrain your brain around stress and anxiety!
Retrain Your Brain To Eliminate Envy
Envy is a negative emotion many of us have felt from time to time. The thing about envy is that it can become overwhleming and all consuming.
We often hear of “Keeping up with Joneses” and from the 2016 movie, we can see its ability to destroy relationships, self-worth and integrity. This comedy makes light of it but this is a real thing we often struggle with.
Social media can be a major source of envy and jealousy. Often times people post about the greatest things in their life and some of our friends can seem a bit too boastful.
Envy can make us look at our own lives and pick it apart, we find faults in ourselves that we focus on rather than our good qualities.
We can even become negative towards people who believe have the perfect lives because we are jealous of their lives. It is much better to build others up than to tear them down. Join The Living A Boss Life Tribe to start building up other women who want to do the same for you!
Happiness is inside of you, it is not something you gain by achieving a job position or a financial status. True happiness is in you and it needs you to nurture it.
Many times we find ourselves waiting for the next great thing in hopes we will find happiness when we reach it and this belief sets up for failure. Happiness is not the next big thing. Happiness is not found externally. Happiness is in you waiting for you to grow it. Start practicing happiness right now!
Do something every day that makes you happy is a great resource for you to check out as well as money can’t buy you happiness (or can it?).
If there is one thing you want to change in your life right now I recommend it be to retrain your brain to find happiness!
Cultivating a positive outlook takes conscious thought. Conscious thought means being aware of your thoughts and what is going on around you.
If yelling at your fixed mindset to shut up is what works for you then join the club haha. No matter how you need to control that negativity it doesn’t matter as long as you are doing what works for you!
There you have it. You can retrain your brain nurture a positive outlook
I hope you found these 7 tips to be a powerful resource of information. Changing our lives can be difficult and with change comes responsibility. Another amazing resource I think you will love is our Positivity survival kit!
By utilizing healthy venting we can access the control that we have in our lives and focus on the present and what really matters. Using I statements when facing a situation can help with your external and internal communication. Practice this regularly.
Absorbing gratitude by seeking it out i our everyday lives and using affirmations can change our outlook dramatically. Start your own gratitude journal or begin each morning with a gratitude affirmation.
Build your empowering relationships and distance yourself from the negative relationships that are tearing you down. You deserve the best relationships in your life. Make sure you give the best of you too.
Helping others whether it be by volunteering, doing acts of kindness or paying it forward helps you to retrain your brain to a more positive accepting one. I highly recommend signing up for our 7-day acts of kindness course to get more involved.
Mediation may seem like a difficult thing to try if you have never done it before but it can be as simple as using breathing techniques or trying a quick 3 minute mediation video on you tube. Give it a try and see how it works for you. Remember not to give up if at first you don’t succeed.
Get rid of envy and jealousy in your heart and mind and instead choose to help empower others. We need to be grateful for what we have and grateful for what others have too. Jealousy will only hurt you in the end.
The most powerful tip in this post that we must all remember is to choose happiness. We have the choice to be happy and we can retrain our brain to find it and foster it to its full potential. Stop waiting for the perfect moment, its already inside of you.
Thank you for coming, I hope you feel the need to share this post and invite others to retrain their brains too!
Take care and chat soon;
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