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Today, I want to share 4 things that you should STOP worrying about! Life is crazy enough as it is. These are 4 of the most common problems people need to stop worrying about ALLLLL the time! Especially when you are ready to start living in the moment and leaving the past behind you!
Worrying is a sure sign that you are not living in the moment.
Worry keeps you from seeing solutions and inhibits your ability to think outside of the box.
Worry keeps you stuck or stressed with FEAR!
There are some things you should stop worrying about or at least allow yourself to escape from and feel the good things happening around you. It is not always easy and sometimes it can be impossible but you can make changes to deal with them right away and refocus on the present.
Jenn Summers
Hey there, I’m your coach Jenn Summers! I’m the owner of LivingABossLife.com, The Living A Boss Life Shop On Etsy & The Living A Boss Life Academy.
I work with women to help them reach the point where they can feel truly confident, happy in their lives, mindful each day, and reach their full potential.
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Table of Contents
1. Stop Worrying About Bills.
I’m not telling you to not think about them but I’m telling you that EVERYONE has bills and they will always be there and they will always keep coming.
Bills just happen to be a way of life and unless you have some secret way to diminish them from your life (if so share your secrets) you can’t ignore them or you will worsen the stress and the problem.
So, how do you stop worrying about bills?
You need to come to a point where you accept them, make a plan and stop letting them run your life. Then you can truly enjoy the present life at hand.
Bills can really take control over your life if this is a major struggle for you here are a few quick tips:
- Create a budget for yourself and stick to it.
- Eliminate unnecessary expenses.
- Pay debts to family & friends first.
- Keep up on loans & mortgage.
Check out this awesome post on Boss Single: Momma Behind on Bills? 10 Things You Can Do Right Now to Fix It
2. Stop Worrying About Money.
Money is definitely one of those things that puts a lot of stress onto people. I can admit that most of the disagreements we have had in our 13 year relationship revolved around money.
My entire life growing up in a family where money was limited taught me to worry endlessly about money!
It taught me to fight about money and it taught me “money did not grow on trees”. My money mindset was weak at best.
No good comes from worrying to the point where it begins to destroy you and those around you. Unfortunately, when you are not money savvy it is easy to fall into that trap.
Rather than stress about money all day long try to think of the good things that you enjoy in life. What makes you happy? What do you love to do?
If possible, find work or an extra source of income that you are passionate about and enjoy doing. Getting paid to do what you love is a really great feeling!
Best of all, doing what you love is an amazing motivator to keep moving forward!
When money gets tight around here for an unseen reason and well you know it happens sometimes, this is what I do.
- First I freak the fuck out (not recommended haha but I’m human)
- I STOP! I literally tell my brain to stop worrying
- I empty my thoughts
- I take a deep breath
- I concentrate on a random calming thought
- I sit perfectly still and calm the hell down
- I brainstorm ideas of how I can make this work
- I make a plan, tell my hubby or a close friend for some accountability and a good healthy vent session.
- then I try my hardest to put it aside and enjoy everything around me.
Is my plan perfect? No.
Does my plan work? Yes, but sometimes I have to run through the steps a few times.
When we are overwhelmed with fear all we can focus on is the negative things that will possibly come from it.
Often times we get scared, overwhelmed, worried and shut down or as Stephen King says, “Fuck Everything And Run.” his acronym for FEAR.
This is not the best way to come up with a solution but unfortunately, it often takes coming to a breaking point for many people to start taking action on their goals!
3. Stop Worrying About The Past.
Out of all the things we worry about the past is probably one of the most intrusive and the one we should worry about the least as much possible!
Why? Because the past is not changeable. There is nothing you can do to change what has happened, what you did, what you didn’t do, who you hurt, who hurt you etc etc. The past is the past!
The definition for the past is: gone in time, no longer of existence. When you look at it that way it can help you realize it has no bearings over the present it no longer exists so stop worrying and allowing it to exist in your mind!
When we strive to live in the moment we must remember that we choose how we feel and we choose how we react.
We can only control ourselves and we can not control past actions. But we can learn from them and use them to reassess the present and the future.
Forgive yourself and wake up every morning building the new you. You can’t change what happened yesterday but you can change who you are today!
Find the positive in the past experience and lay it to rest.
4. Stop Worrying About The Haters.
Not everyone is going to love you and not everyone is kind out there. There is always going to be someone wanting to shit on your parade for whatever reason.
The thing is when you start doing amazing things people take notice, and sometimes those people want to bring you down. For whatever reason who knows, we are not here to make speculations. We are here to acknowledge what other people think of you is not your problem. Shake it off!
I used to allow the haters to hold me back, fear of speaking my mind, fear of putting myself out there. The hater’s voice was so loud and sometimes they made it inside my own head. They destroyed my confidence and before I knew it I had lost myself.
It is a lot of work to come back from that dark place so instead, try not to let yourself get stuck there.
But if you find yourself stuck with their voices trapped in your head I would love to help you break free. Here are some resources for you to check out:
- Empowering Self-Awareness Course. (Free)
- The Confidence Self-Assessment. (Free)
- 5 Ways To Stop Negative Thinking (Free)
- 37 Gratitude Affirmations For Your Gratitude Journal (Free)
- The Confidence Builder Workbook & Guide ($9.97)
- The Confidence Builder Workshop (Coming Soon)
Try to think of the haters hating on you in a flattering way, “I must be moving mountains for them to take notice”, remind yourself that it does not matter what others say or do, you control your thoughts, you control your feelings. In short, stop worrying about what other people think!
Control them well and forget about the things you can not control!
Focus on being kind, doing unto others what you would have to be done unto you.
Be kind.
Be compassionate.
Be thoughtful.
Be Mindful.
You Have Totally Got This!
4 Things To Stop Worrying About Conclusion
How are you feeling? Were you able to take some of this post and figure out how to stop worrying about bills, money, the past or the haters?
Life is short and we often take it for granted. Living in the present and making the most out of each and every day is essential. We need to choose to be happy now, we can’t wait for all the stars to align.
When you are able to create your happiness in your life starting today with living in the present your whole world will begin to change. You will start to recognize the little things in life that truly make up the big things in life.
Don’t wait a moment more. Be happy, be confident, be the best you that you can be. Live every day like it were your last and stop worrying about things you have no control over!
Take care & chat soon;
Jenn Summers
Living A Boss Life
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Love these suggestions. It’s so important to stay mindful and in the moment – and not “worry twice” ! Thank you so much for this post!
It truly is, thank you for coming and for your kind comments. I love the ‘not “worry twice”‘!
Great post! I need to read this over and over again to remind myself daily lol … thanks for sharing this!
I feel you girl, practice makes perfect! You have totally got this!
Some good tips. These are some things that can make it difficult to stop worrying. Not having enough money to pay bills is a big one. But you are right, worrying won’t help you pay those bills. I find mindful meditation helps me in times of stress. So does going for a walk in the woods, out in nature.
I love your stress relief ideas, I have been meaning to do a self-care post and you just inspired me. Thank you for coming, Patricia and sharing your insights!
Ha. The Stephen King reference! Brilliant and true. My mom is a notorious worrier. I may have to share some of this.
Lol yes! When I wrote this post I knew I had to fit it in somehow haha. Hope your mom finds it helpful. It takes a lot of practice and repetition to remember to focus on what we can control and let go of the constant worries but once we are able to it such a relief.
Thanks Jenn!
I have to tell you that I really enjoyed this post. In my family I have always been the “it is what it is” guy. You bring up good points here.
Worrying causes stress and stress is the cancer of happinesses
So very true Patrick, such a great insight to have. Sometimes we just have no control over what is happening around us and need to focus on what we can control, our actions and our feelings. Thanks for your insights!
Great post! Every week I attempt to budget my week out, especially with groceries and meal planning. It can definitely be tough, but this post is creating more motivation in me to stick to my budget every week better! I definitely need to work on the quit worrying about the haters. That is such a great tip, and I feel like it can be such a struggle. I’m working on it though! Thanks so much for sharing!
Thanks so much, Cassie. I’m so glad this post helped motivate and inspire you! Best of luck with all of your goals!