Let’s talk about how to stop worrying about what other people think of you! This is vital to gain control over our fixed mindset and that judgmental voice in our heads. I have included a lot of links to extra guidance in this post to help you wherever you may need it.
Worrying about what other people think is the biggest confidence killer.
When we worry about what other people are thinking we are bringing ourselves down. We let our fixed mindset seep in and take control.
We have no idea what other people are thinking and our minds can create some pretty wild assumptions.
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Have you ever made assumptions about what other people think of you?
Let me give you a scenario to think about: Think of a time you were upset with someone close to you in your life (spouse, sibling, parent, best friend).
A time where neither of you maintained very good communication. The more you did not speak about it the larger the assumptions grew in your mind. A time where you wrong in your assumptions.
I want you to really think about it, picture it in your mind, remember the feelings you felt.
- Did you feel angry?
- Did you feel embarrassed?
- Did you feel sad, mortified, disappointed?
- What were you doing?
- Can you remember the place, the time, the circumstance?
Do you have a clear picture in your mind of this situation where you drew a conclusion in your own mind? If so let’s keep going, if not go back over the questions and dig deeper.
So here you are with this incredibly close person in your life and you have come to a conclusionthat they are judging you or taking you for granted.
You begin to build up those feeling that your negative fixed mindset keeps presenting you. The issue grows bigger and bigger.
Finally, something snaps and you have a choice to make fight or flight.
This time you choose to communicate about it.
You discover you were extremely off base and they were too.
Your mind took over and some tiny little issue became a big problem in your mind.
Once you discuss it calmly and rationally you realize it was a silly mistake and that they really were not thinking those things after all.
This scenario that we are building up to look into is with someone close to you that you know very well. A person that you feel a bond with an consider to be a big part of your life.
You didn’t know what they were thinking, and yet your fixed mindset allowed you to tear apart the relationship.
So if your mind can allow that happen to happen with a close knit relationship just imagine what it can do with acquaintances and strangers.
How could you possibly know what an acquaintance or a stranger is thinking?
Why worrying about what other people think of you does not matter.
Does it actually matter?
The short answer is no. The only answer is no!
Our lives get so caught up in limiting beliefs based on what other people say that we should do or shouldn’t do. In the end, none of it matters. The only thing that matters is how we feel about our actions and decisions.
If we live our lives trying to please others and worrying about what they think we will miss the glory of living in the present.
Learn 4 more worries we should stop thinking about here.
We need to live our lives with our own self-care in mind. We can not possibly know what other people think of us and even if we do it DOES NOT MATTER!
You are the most important person to think about. What you think about YOU is the only opinion that should matter. You need to be proud of who you are and what you stand for. Not what other people say you should stand for.
Worrying about what other people think of you is a form of overthinking
I know that I have had troubles with overthinking a lot of things in my life. Overthinking is a huge obstacle that prevents us from taking action and wasting time procrastinating.
Worrying about what other people think of you is a definite form of overthinking. We do not know what is going on in their minds just like they do not know what is going on in our minds.
Allowing our critical thinking to jump in and take over diminishes our self-control.
Are you happy doing what you are doing? If so, then don’t worry about what others think of you and do what makes you happy.
Instead, be who you are and don’t worry about what others will think of you.
Let Go Of The Haters
There will always be haters in life. There will always be people who strive to tear you down. Don’t be one of those people. And don’t allow those people to stop you from achieving your goals.
Don’t worry about them; you won’t be able to please everyone.
Choose people who love and support you. Choose people who want what is best for you. Cut the toxic people out of your life.
In my recent bestseller, I told readers about my hack for dealing with toxic people hack. I like to call it the Marie Kondo Self-Care Hack.
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Replace the haters with an accountability partner. Choose someone who does not judge you and wants the best for you. Choosing someone who is working on a similar aspect of life or a common goal will give the most effective results. Remember the support is mutual!
What Other People Think Should Not Influence What You Think!
Next time you start worrying about what other people think, stop yourself.
Remember that what you think is most important. If you find yourself allowing other people’s judgement to work its way into your mindset then check our complimentary empowering self-awareness course.
Let go of the negative thinking and empower your joy.
Don’t allow your mind to diminish your confidence. Keep going strong.
For more learning on confidence, check out these resources:
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- The Confidence Builder Workbook & Guide
- The Confidence Builder Workshop Waitlist
- Confidence & Your Business
Practice a new loving self-image of yourself that includes being proud of who you are today and the actions you are taking right now.
The only person you need to please is YOU!
And that does not mean for you to be hypercritical of who you are today. We have the gift to change our minds and change our lives each and every day. We never stop growing, we never stop learning!
How To Stop Worrying What Other People Think In A Nutshell
In this post we discussed how to stop worrying about what other people think.
We talked about how we can’t possibly know what other people think and we often jump to conclusions. Therefore we need to stop jumping to conclusions. Open the lines of communication if you feel the relationship requires it.
If it’s a non-important relationship then the other person’s thoughts do not matter.
A good friend of mine, rest his soul, used to say “It makes no never-mind.”
It does not matter! What other people think of you has no merit over what you should think of yourself. Your opinion is the only opinion that controls your happiness once you allow it.
Let go of the overthinking! Overthinking is slowing you down in many ways, don’t allow your mind to start thinking about what others think too. You have no idea, so leave it at that.
Leave the haters behind and surround yourself with people who love and support you the rest are toxic relationships holding you back from being your best self.
Control your limiting beliefs by not allowing others to seep into your mindset. Their thoughts and presumed thoughts should not influence your thoughts. Be proud of who you are!
These 5 insights will help you to be a ‘more confident you‘ if you embrace them in their entirety. Stop worrying about what other people think of you and start living like a boss.
Take care and chat soon;
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